The Transphobic notion that non-gender-binary attraction is wrong also does horrendous harm.
This is perpetuated by some binary-identified transgender people (and cisgender transsexuals for those who prefer another term) too which can perpetuate the sexual-phobia in the TG community.
We need to be acknowledged as attractive just like cis-folk get acknowledged as attractive.
And TG people will not make sufficient headway by trying to cast sexuality out of the community.
And in fact it is the fear of not finding a long-term partner that keeps a huge proportion of TG people in the closet, keeping being TG secret form their current and prospective partners.
The desire for sex in fact keeps TG people trying to be Cis!
That only keeps the majority of TG folk closeted and lonely and miserable.
The reactionary fear of the sexual-taboo and fetish label is holding us back.
So it became ‘the sex act’ and then ‘sex’ making any discussion of the differences between sex and gender in ordinary english with people uneducated in TG issues a mess to begin with.
Transgender has often been cast as a fetish, a going-wrong of sexual desires.
This prejudice contributes to the fear and hesitation transoriented and transgendered people experience when considering having a serious and open relationship.
As someone who has shared my transorientation with friends, the biggest hurdle is to get them to see past the sexual aspect of the attraction.
Seems a bad ‘devil and the deep’ scenario already huh? Many wonder why if studies suggest TG is comparably common to GLB then why is it so invisible, so closeted?