You’re likely there to find someone to spend time with, date, hook up with, flirt and sext with — you’re there to have fun.
So, when racism invades your personal space, a space you’ve spent time cultivating in such a way as to gravitate love and cute faces your way, you are allowed to rage against the machine. Let’s imagine you get a message that goes a little something like this: The problem is not with the police.
The problem is with ignorant, entitled children who feel like they are above showing respect for authority figures and think they can behave however they want without consequences.
Staying safe while dating online goes far beyond reporting a user to your service’s support center.
Daters should always be aware of the information they are putting out to others and make sure that they have adjusted their profile settings in such a way that will keep their personal privacy intact.
This means that if one of your matches becomes perverse, aggressive, accusatory or invasive, you should take the necessary precautions to end the harassment and protect yourself in the future.
Online dating services are well aware of the potential threat of harassment among daters, and have taken steps to protect their users.
It was an interesting window into white privilege as visibility politics are a part of Like I said earlier, you don’t owe anyone your time or energy.
You’re not on Ok Cupid, Tinder, Bumble, Siren, whatever to prove to racists that you deserve to be alive, loved, seen.
Maybe none of that is something they want to hear or have the emotional bandwidth to respond to, but you have every right to take up space in someone else’s life. Regardless of consequence, of the impact our words might have on others?
to discuss racism with him after I didn’t respond to his first sad attempt at starting a conversation.
Not only would there be a mob at the ready if an officer treated a white child like that, that mob wouldn’t even be necessary because the likelihood of an officer treating a white child like that is practically negligible. Copy/paste evert bell hooks, Michelle Alexander, Melissa Harris Perry quote known to mankind.