With all this inter-connectedness comes some incest.
But there’s something about the online world that makes these kind of situations seem nonchalant and fun, you meet someone cute but they’re not 100% right but then you meet someone else who strangely happens to be a friend of theirs and you get along better. Too much social media starts to dilute the conversation, when you’ve already watched what they’ve done all day via Snapchat, why would you text them?
It happens and it can be fun – only if you’re not the one getting ghosted of course. If you’re following them on Instagram and liking their photos, why would you need to text them and show interest.
None of my friends use or Guardian Soulmates and the sheer immediacy of dating apps is a whole different playing field to traditional ‘online dating’ or meeting someone IRL. The online playing field is fickle, fast-paced and essentially, entirely superficial.
Within minutes you can find someone hot, then find out if they like similar things to you, hang out at the same places, then within seconds find out who your mutual friends are, where they last got drunk and where their mum lives. The excitement and urgency at which we find people is reflective of the speed at which we move on.
Gay guys have no problem with this; overall they make it quite clear they want to carry on having sex afterwards and whether or not they’re looking for anything serious.
So maybe what we can learn from all this is quite simple: be honest.So how do you go about finding that someone special? Remind yourself that it’s only a date; one very short period in your entire life and, if things really do go wrong, the consequences are very minor and short lived, compared to the rest of your life. Make sure not to turn the date into an interrogation. A first date is an artificial and potentially awkward situation for both of you and your date will probably be just as nervous as you are. I have been on and off online dating, speed dating, and other dating clubs, and while I haven't found someone, I still never give.It used to be that you went to singles events or bars, or you might have been paired up by family, friends, or coworkers. The last time I was on online dating I met someone who I went out with for four months.Now that ‘online dating’ is no longer secretive or taboo, it’s officially become a day-to-day part of our lives, whether you or your friends are on Tinder, Raya, JSwipe or just sliding in someone’s DM’s.But the term ‘online dating’ already feels so dated; it’s not really relevant for our generation.If you’re on an app, you’re probably kinda thirsty and DTF or at least curious. Have you ever seen that meme ‘when you’re 46 weeks deep into lurking and you see something you don’t want to see…’ yeah, that’s why you should avoid doing it.