Try dealing with these points: The Ex is a bad influence on the children, The ex cheated which meant the relationship ended with severe strain on the children and spouse who was betrayed, sharing children is NEVER a fun thing....think so?
Ask any divorced couple how many times the "No I thought YOU were going to take them this weekend and YOU were supposed to pick them up" argument occurs.
Her so called husband has already married another woman and that is the reason for the divorce.
For example, tetherball, a game you never thought you would play, you might be playing it every night.
Fun and excitement will change from grown up fun to kid fun.
Here is Scott’s guest post that gives us a glance at the transition from single guy to married guy with step kids, and all the wonderful things that can happen if you are open-minded, have insight into what the kids are going through, and just give it time. But if you keep in mind what the kids went through, you will have a better understanding and be a great step parent.
Step Parenting – From Frustration to Love by Scott Trick Almost a year ago I went from being single to married with two step kids. Frustration One of the frustrations a step parent can experience is the fact that the step child does not know how to act in public with his or her new step parent.
If you are dating a woman with kids, you probably aren’t doing it just for fun. You’ve got to have the talk.”I bring that up because that is a classic case where a single guy began dating a woman with a child, and had so much to learn and go through.
You most likely really, really like the woman (or love her) and you are smart enough to realize that with her, comes her children. Same is the case with Scott Trick, Divorced Guy Grinning’s guest blogger.She also said "I'm NOT looking for a new relationship which could mean 1. She will never be over it and wants the benefits of a boyfriend with no strings attached. Reply As for this article written by Scott Trick....It's very short and I dare say shallow in it's points.Yet, we are developing a very open minded friendship. I know patience would be worthwhile as she is the most amazing woman I have ever met. Reply You would be VERY wise to heed the comment about "her" priorities.Women who make their kids their top priority are not good dating material. The children learn that the world revolves around them...seeing a healthy, positive relationship where a man and woman are the center and the children are to be loved but not the "center" of the world.All it takes is for one of them to be a bad influence and you have trouble. I'm 31, and i'm dating a woman who just turned 39 and has 2 kids (4 and 6).